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Letters to my Grandchildren – Be You!

Dear Grandchildren,

Do you know what authentic means? It means original, not a copy of anything else. I want you to each be authentic. You were each born with special talents and qualities that are unique to you. My hope for you is that you will recognize these qualities and become the best you that you can be.

Stand Out, Be Different

Stand Out, Be Different

One of my favorite quotes says, “Why are you trying so hard to fit in, when you were born to stand out?” I know that it is important as you go through school to have friends, and to try to fit in. I just pray that you won’t ever give up the special “you” that you are, to be able to fit in. Don’t give in to the peer pressure. Instead, why not be the leader, and lead out?

 If you love art, or building, or dressing a certain way, or a certain kind of music, or whatever it might be, don’t quit it or sacrifice it, just to fit in with someone’s idea of what they think you should be like. BE WHO YOU ARE SUPPOSED TO BE, and be the best at it.

For the most part, my kids figured this one out when they were in school. It was tough for some of them, to realize that they needed to love what they loved and not worry about what the other people thought of them. For some of them, it made them a little bit lonely sometimes.

I don’t believe that we are all supposed to fit into one mold. There is no one right way to be. Find your talents and your passions, and go for it. Auntie Rosie is probably one of my most visible examples of this. She loves to dress bold and crazy sometimes, and she doesn’t care if people like it, she loves it! I remember one time when we went to a party that was mostly older ladies, and she dressed pretty bold. She strutted into the building, and it was so awesome to watch the older ladies jaws drop open. She was modest, and looked really cute, but some of the ladies were a bit judgmental. I got quite a chuckle out of it.

Another example would be Auntie Llexie. She loves art. School was really tough on her because she was the kind of kid who

You are Unique.

You are Unique.

loved what she loved, and she wouldn’t give in to anything that was not what she wanted or believed in. She spent a lot of lonely years in high school and college, because she had special gifts, and many didn’t respect these gifts and talents.

 Don’t ever let anyone tell you who you should be like. You are unique. You are original. You are special in your own way. Run with it. Be authentic. Be a leader of who you are. Let your uniqueness shine forth in a big way! Be the best you that you can be!

I will always be your cheer squad!

I love you

Forever and always,

Grandma

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Letters to my Grandchildren – A Place of Refuge

Letters to my Grandchildren – A Place of Refuge

Grandma’s house, a place of refuge

Dear Grandchildren,

We all need a place of refuge. A place where we can go to when the world seems to be beating us down. A place where we know that nobody is going to judge us. A place where we know we are loved. A place where there are warm arms just waiting to hug us. A place where we can go, just to be safe. This place is Grandma’s house.

You will have your days when you feel like you just can’t seem to get ahead in life, in school, in your home, in your job. You will have those days when you feel like you want to quit, because it just isn’t worth it. Please don’t quit, just come to my house, and I will help you through it. I will hug you and tell you that you can do it. I will give you some yummy food, whatever is your favorite at the time. I will let you just be in the safety of someone who loves you.

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This is an I love you rock!

You will have your days when perhaps there are bullies that seem to be after you. Bullies can come in many forms. They can be kids at your school. They can be adults who are treating you bad. They can be someone that you love. They can be your boss, or another person you work with. Whoever the bully is, walk away and come to my house. I will help you figure out how to deal with them. Unfortunately we live in a world that judges people really harsh. For some reason, people think it is okay to be mean to others. That is never okay. There is never a good enough reason, to be a bully to someone else. Grandma’s house is a safe place for you to come. Nobody will ever hurt you there.

Grandpa and I, we will always have a safe place in our home for you. No matter what age you are, or what the storm is in your life, you can always find a place of refuge from it at our house. I will always do my best, to make sure that you feel that way.

If you ever doubt this, I would encourage you to just ask your parents about how much I will fight for my kids and grandkids. There is nobody more important in the world to me, than you guys. I will always be there for you, and together we can solve any problems. There is nothing that I am not willing to tackle to help you overcome any challenges. And if you just need a listening ear, I have two of them, and I have a zipper on my mouth that somedays, I might even close, just to sit and listen to you.

Don’t ever forget that my home is a place of refuge from the storm for you. No matter the storm, my door will always be open. In Grandma’s house, no judging allowed. Just hugs and kisses. Oh yes, we have to have these!

You are special

I hope you know how much

Love always,

Grandma

 

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Letters to My Grandchildren – Mom’s- Best Friends

Dear Grandchildren,

Who is your best friend? I know that many of you are going to mention a good friend from school, a neighbour, a boyfriend or a girlfriend, but I want to tell you that growing up, your best friend should be your mom.

What? Yes, you read it right. Your best friend should be your mom! There is nobody else in the world that will fight for you harder than your mom. There is nobody else in the world that will help you learn things, more than your mom. There is nobody else in the world that sacrificed more to get you here than your mom. And, if you keep your mom as your best friend, it will save you countless hours of heartache and mistakes.

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My Mom!

There may be a time in your life when you think that your friends are more important than your mom. Your friends will be the ones that you “have fun” with. They will go to movies with you, or go to parties with you, or get into trouble with you, but the one friend that you will always be able to count on, is your mom. Your friends will come and go through your life. Each year of school you will probably have a different “best friend”. Guess what? Your mom will always be your mom, and if you can learn that she is your best friend, there is nobody else in the world that will stand beside you, and fight harder for you, than your mom.

You may find that sometimes your mom may seem like the bad guy. Do you know why? Because she knows and understands what is best for you. She knows also what things542564_10151304632040108_1989633940_n are bad for you. I promise that your mom only wants you to be happy and successful. She is ultimately the one that can help you learn all that you need to learn, to go on and be whatever you want to be in life.

I hope that you understand what your mom had to go through to bring you into this world. It wasn’t all fun and games. It wasn’t easy. In fact, there were probably times when she wondered what in the world she was doing. She sacrificed much to get you here. Don’t ever take that for granted. Sometimes moms give up careers, sometimes they sacrifice health, and they always sacrifice themselves, just so you can be a part of their world. I know that for years, your mom will often sacrifice the nice clothes, nice toys, nice everything, just so you can have the best that they can give you.

But, in saying all of this, I want you to know that I do understand also, that moms are not perfect. We make mistakes. We are learning as we go along too. We sometimes forget our priorities in life for a short time. However, even as we are not perfect, the one thing that never changes, is how much we love you.

Don’t ever take your mom for granted. Love her. Cherish her. Respect her. Help her. And most of all, listen to her, and you will be okay.

I love you all today more than yesterday,

Grandma

 

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Letters to My Grandchildren – A Place of Refuge

Dear Grandchildren,
We all need a place of refuge. A place where we can go to when the world seems to be beating us down. A place where we know that nobody is going to judge us. A place where we know we are loved. A place where there are warm arms just waiting to hug us. A place where we can go, just to be safe. This place is Grandma’s house.
You will have your days when you feel like you just can’t seem to get ahead in life, in school, in your home, in your job. You will have those days when you feel like you want to quit, because it

just isn’t worth it. Please don’t quit, just come to my house, and I will help you through it. I will hug you and tell you that you can do it. I will give you some yummy food, whatever is your favorite at the time. I will let you just be in the safety of someone who loves you.

You will have your days when perhaps there are bullies that seem to be after you. Bullies can come in many forms. They can be kids at your school. They can be adults who are treating you bad. They can be someone that you love. They can be your boss, or another person you work with. Whoever the bully is, walk away and come to my house. I will help you figure out how to deal with them. Unfortunately we live in a

world that judges people really harsh. For some reason, people think it is okay to be mean to others. That is never okay. There is never a good enough reason, to be a bully to someone else. Grandma’s house is a safe place for you to come. Nobody will ever hurt you there.

Grandpa and I, we will always have a safe place in our home for you. No matter what age you are, or what the storm is in your life, you can always find a place of refuge from it at our house. I will always do my best, to make sure that you feel that way. 

 
If you ever doubt this, I would encourage you to just ask your parents about how much I will fight for my kids and grandkids. There is nobody more important in the world to me, than you guys. I will always be there for you, and together we can solve any problems. There is nothing that I am

not willing to tackle to help you overcome any challenges. And if you just need a listening ear, I have two of them, and I have a zipper on my mouth that some days, I might even close, just to sit and listen to you.

Don’t ever forget that my home is a place of refuge from the storm for you. No matter the storm, my door will always be open. In Grandma’s house, no judging allowed. Just hugs and kisses. Oh yes, we have to have these!
You are special
I hope you know how much
Love always,
Grandma
 

Letters to My Grandchildren – Be a Leader

Dear Grandchildren,
In the world, there are usually three kinds of people. There are leaders, who step up and want to make a difference. There are followers, who don’t really want to make a difference, they just want to do their thing and be left alone. There are “slackers”, I call them, who think that they can do nothing, and that everyone else will take care of them. 
 
Who do you think you want to be? I hope you say a leader! Sometimes it is hard to be a leader, and you may think that you don’t have the ability or qualities to be a leader. Let me tell you that

anyone can be a leader, if they want to. Be a leader in something that you love to do. Be a leader in something that you really believe in. Be a leader in your home, and your community. Be a leader in your school and church. Be a leader in life. Being a leader, doesn’t mean that you always have to be in charge. Sometimes it just means being involved and doing your best, giving it your 100%. Being a leader doesn’t mean being bossy either. Leaders know how to delegate, not be bossy. There is a difference. Nobody likes someone who is bossy, but they do like someone who can show them the way and teach them. That is what a leader does.

Followers, well I guess we have to have them too, or we wouldn’t need a leader right? Followers can be taught to be leaders, with a little guidance and a lot of determination. Followers are leaders in training. So if you don’t think you are a leader yet, and you are a follower, take lots of notes and learn all you can, because your days of being a leader are just around the corner. 
 
Slackers, well I am not sure what to do with them. I hope you are never one of them. They are quite happy to be a non contributor to life. They always want everyone else to do it all and they just sit back and take, take, take. I guess with the right encouragement, they can become better, and more productive, but I hope you never join up with the “slacker” club.
A good leader will take advice from others, and then make the right decision and show the way. A

Lead Me, Guide Me, Walk Beside Me

good leader will find those followers who want to grow and learn, and teach them how. A good leader will love people, and love helping people. A good leader will not listen to people who try to discourage them, and only listen to the positive encouragement. Sometimes it gets really hard being the leader, and you may feel like you just want to opt out and become a follower. Please don’t ever opt out. The world is desperately in need of great leaders right now, and I can only see this need ever growing. The followers will always be there following, and some will shine forth as leaders. The “slackers” club is growing fast, and we certainly know that we don’t want them in charge of our world!

Be a leader. Be a great leader! Be the leader of whatever you are involved in. Step up and shine as the leaders that I know you can be.
Don’t ever quit even when
things get really tough,
keep going.
Love Grandma
 

Letters to My Grandchildren – Doing or Being Right?

Dear Grandchildren,
This lesson might be a hard one for many of you to learn, but I hope that you pick it up really quickly. Doing what is right is always better than being right. 
 
I have watched my own family be torn apart because of this statement, and it is very heartbreaking. Sometimes in life, we don’t want to admit that we are wrong. We always have to be

strength in numbers

right. You know what? You don’t always have to be right. I would rather you never be right, as long as you are always doing what is right. In the course of always doing the right, you will then be right. I know that might not make sense to you, and is kind of a mouthful. But if you put it to practice, people will respect you for it.

There is strength in numbers, so stick together you guys, you have great strength within yourselves.  Support each other in your desires to do what is right.
I admire people who do what is right regardless of the consequences. That is a really hard thing to do. Sometimes the thing might be really embarrassing, or might be really humbling, but doing what is right, is always the best thing to do. 
 
There will always be those people that try to get us to follow the crowd and do what everyone else is doing. These people are called our peers. There are only a very small few of these people, that will really care about who you are. The rest will just want you to go with the crowd, party, get into trouble, and not follow your values and who you are. Please don’t listen to them. Please listen to your own conscience, it will let you know what is the right thing to do. 
 
Sometimes you will think that it is easier to do something because every one else is doing it. This argument has been going on for a long, long time. I am pretty sure that every generation has used the argument, that every one else is doing it, so why can’t I? You don’t need to be like everyone else, you just need to do what is right, no matter what!
I know that doing what is the right thing, isn’t always the easy thing to do. I understand that very well. In fact sometimes, it is the hardest thing to do, but it is still the right thing. 
 
This crazy old world seems to be at a point where, pretty much anything goes, and anything is

accepted by everyone. Don’t you fall for this trap. In our family we still have standards and always will. Anything doesn’t go in our family. I watch the teenagers across the street at the high school, and it is kind of scary how many of them I see that do not have values or morals. It is pretty evident by how they dress, how they act, and the things that come out of their mouth. Please don’t follow in their footsteps. Choose the right and make a stand for those things that are right. You will not be sad you did. In the end, you will be far better off.

I do love you and want each of you to be a great example of what living a good life is all about. Making good choices is a really big part of this. Please don’t ever forget it.
Forever and for always
I love you
Grandma
 

Kiss Me On The Forehead – Letters to My Grandchildren

Dear Grandchildren,
One thing we must all do in this life, is grow older. I am at the point in my life where I am watching the generation before me leave this life, and I want to give you all some advice for when I get to that point, and you are watching me.
Don’t be afraid of older people. They can seem a bit scary to young children, but they are not. They really just want your love and attention, even if it is just to sit and hold their hand.

When I am older, I want you to still be able to give me a kiss on the forehead, and know that I will always love and appreciate that. It is important. You can sit beside me and hold my hand, or read me a book. I love reading now, so I am positive that when I can no longer read, I will love it if you read to me. 
 
As I take my turn now, visiting with seniors, I have grown to really love and appreciate their kind hearts. They have much wisdom to share with me, and I love to sit and visit with them for hours. This is important to them, and because I have the understanding that I do, it is also important to me.
Take the time to learn from us when we are older. We will have lived a lifetime of experiences and will have much to share with you, if you will take the time to listen to us.
Have compassion for us in our feeble state. We will need your gentle hands and loving hearts to help us get through these times. We still will have all of the same feelings and emotions inside of us, and though our soul will still feel like it is young and vibrant, our bodies won’t agree. 
 
All of this can be hard for us all to understand, but I am asking that you never give up on an elderly person who needs you. We will always need you, and someday you will be in our place and you will need those that are following you.
Just remember, hold my hand, walk with me, read me books, make me look beautiful, and kiss me on the forehead, and all will be great.
I will always love you,
Grandma
 
 
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